Some people you do the same things with are not half as good as you. The only difference is they killed their self-doubt and took charge of their life, while you allowed the two to tie you down.
Tackling Self-doubt
Firstly, to be successful in life and reach the peak of your potential, you have to kill that inner enemy, self-doubt, that whispers to you every time about not being so good for the gig or telling you that it’s not yet time and you are not ready yet for something that big. We are all built with that in us as humans. The best of us in life are those that have found a way to strike it out. And those that have reduced the influence of those whispers in their decision-making.
This same thing keeps telling you that you are not yet ready but will you be happy to know that most successful people were not fully ready when they took the step then? Facebook was not at this peak or this brilliant when it all started some years back. Zuckerberg just took a giant stride, and today, it is paying off. As the common saying goes, there is never a better time for something to start; the earlier you start, the better the timing. Most time, all you may need to do is to take that step and, on the way, you improve your work.
I think it’s time you lifted that cloud of doubts you have for yourself and take charge of your life. Kill that self-doubt, take the course that needs to be taken, connect with the right set of people, make those phone calls, send that cold email, apply for that scholarship or job and be prepared to take on as many opportunities as possible. Never wait till you are perfect before you start because the word perfect itself was not for humans. It’s better to start in a basic way or form then do a thousand tweaks on the way to improve than waiting to do a thousand tweaks before you start.
Taking Responsibility
Opportunities, they say, present themselves to those that position themselves well. To position yourself well and send out a positive and bold image of yourself, you have to kill the self-doubt. You have to stop blaming other people or factors for where you find yourself in life. Like Mark Mason said in his book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, no matter what happens to you in this life, you are the one responsible for it. Either you take responsibility for your own life and address the challenges or sit down and do the easiest thing, blaming other people for your problem and not getting them solved. It’s easier to blame than to take action.
To make you understand how taking responsibility for one’s life works, I will paint a scenario. For example, if a man is shot in the leg by the robbers, he would not sit there and continue to blame the robbers for what they did. As a responsible man, he will find ways to treat his wound and move on with his life. Yes, someone may have to be blamed, but they are not responsible for what happens next, you are. Responsibility deals with taking charge of your life after anything that happened might have. You were fired from your job because a friend snitched on you or you denied your boss a sexual intercourse request, fine, they may be to be blamed, but they are not responsible for how you will get a new job and move on in your carrier. I hope you now get the drill.
It is not even in all cases that there may be someone to be blamed for what has happened. Somebody that is your support system died like your mum, for instance, who are you to blame? God? No. No one, not even yourself. Now that the deed has been done, what next? Be responsible for your life henceforth and put your trust in God to be with you on the journey.
Conclusion
I hope I passed the messages well, and I have inspired someone with the few words I have been able to put together.
In conclusion, know that where you can reach in life heavily depends on your level of readiness and belief. Knowing that should be in conjunction with the belief that God is in control and He has already written out things for you. But none of us knows what it is that God has written for us. That is the more reason you have to do your striving as our God loves those that strive. If you can read to this point, I have to gift you something for your patience. I wish you all the best this life has to offer. If you believe in the afterlife, I wish you the very best it also has to offer.
Umar Ismaeel writes from Ibadan, Nigeria.
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